Giving up Expectations
“I thought you were going to take out the garbage?” Those words along with many others along those same lines were used a lot when my husband, Tyler, and I first got married. We should have listened to the wise words someone told us before we got married: make a chore list of who would do what. We thought about it and then said, “nah, we got it, everything will get done.” Shortly into the first few months of marriage we realized that things were not getting done because we expected each other to do things based on our own thoughts and expectations. Finally after months of having little arguments about something silly like chores, we made a list.
As I reflect on my life, my expectations of relationships, marriage, motherhood, living in different places, church, family, and faith have all shifted and are continually shifting. I did’t expect to enjoy being home with my kids as much as I do (even though sometimes my attitude says otherwise), I didn’t expect to live in different places, I didn’t expect to move back to Michigan from California as soon as we did, and I didn’t expect my thoughts of what it means to follow Jesus to evolve.
Something I am continually learning in my relationship with Jesus is that he always knows what is best, even when it doesn’t seem that way at times. I can almost guarantee that he fulfills our hopes, desires, and dreams differently than what we thought and as always, on a different time table.
Friends, this Lent season, I would like to encourage you to think about and maybe write down the ways in which the areas of your life have gone differently than expected. As you reflect on them, look for the ways that you can see Jesus through each circumstance and life event. Then, moving forward and looking towards the present, I want to challenge you to reflect on your current expectations, give them up to Jesus and let him work.